so many times we pretend to be someone we aren't so that people will like us. At one point or another every one's done it. There's no shame in it, we all want to be accepted. Be yourself, buy bright red lipstick on a whim and wear it proudly - who cares what people think. Pin that hand crafted flower to your blouse because you think it's beautiful. The point is, be who you are, don't let anyone change you and don't change who you are. I'm not talking about convincing your husband to quit smoking or things like that, I'm talking about being true to who you are at your core, the you that rarely has the opportunity to shine.
be who you are, love who you are, and others will come to love you as well.